This is where the similarity between Gay’s life as recounted in her essays and Girls ends: as the show progresses, all of Adam’s mistreatment is explained away by the fact that he just wasn’t in love with Hannah yet. Adam jerks off on Hannah’s chest while pretending she’s a preteen heroine addict tells Hannah she can’t touch herself unless he gives her permission and has sex with her whenever she shows up at his door but never asks her on a date. This “state of affairs”-the girl who is “dying but happy” to be with a boy who gives her nothing but his enjoyment of her body-characterizes the relationship between Hannah and Adam in the first season of Girls. At school, he continued to look right through me. When we were together, he’d tell me what he wanted to do to me. I accepted the state of affairs between us. I was nerdy and friendless, all lanky limbs and crazy hair, and he was beautiful and popular. He was terrible, but he was also charming and persuasive. It was fine because when we were together, he made me feel like he could fill my gaping void. It’s a sad, silly story lots of girls know. … here was a boy who I thought was my boyfriend and who said he was my boyfriend but who also completely ignored me at school. In the essay “What We Hunger For,” Gay describes her first boyfriend as a man who seems a lot like Adam, Hannah’s boyfriend in Girls, in season one: But at its best, Bad Feminist is a straightforward reminder that acknowledging one’s weaknesses does not mean accepting the blame for everything that hurts in life. Much of the writing is hurried-charmingly casual at times (“I am mortified by my music choices”) and sloppily so at others (“Here’s the thing about history-it repeats itself over and over and over”).
As a book, Bad Feminist is far from perfect. I’ve always been incredibly invested in my work and knew it would be really hard for whatever man ended up with me.” Like most of Hannah’s seemingly feminist remarks, the comment is tongue-in-cheek-Hannah’s writing is not presented as meaningful and her ambition does make her act like a monster.Īlthough the self-deprecation in Girls and other shows and movies written by women is often funny and sometimes moving, it’s a relief to come across a woman like Gay who admits her failures without mocking herself. This admission that feminism cannot solve heartache is a far cry from Hannah complaining on Girls, “I just don’t want to be considered a monster for caring what happens to my work. My success, such as it is, is supposed to be enough if I’m a good feminist. This kind of thinking keeps me up at night, but I pretend it doesn’t because I am supposed to be evolved. I worry about dying alone, unmarried and childless, because I spent so much time pursuing my career and accumulating degrees. Rather, she frankly admits her struggles: Gay feels overwhelmed and scared at work, goes out with men she knows she shouldn’t, and is “down with female submission.” But unlike the bad girls of Hollywood, Gay does not lambaste herself for the parts of her life that are less than perfect.
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In her new essay collection Bad Feminist, Roxane Gay grapples with many of the same issues that challenge other women who grew up after second wave feminism-sex, love, and professional ambition-and she readily admits her weaknesses in each of these areas. Women may be writing their own fantasies now, but these are still fantasies of conventionality. The man is smart and self-contained, too profound to worry himself over social concerns the woman is flighty, insecure, and needy. The man initiates and enjoys sex the woman is sexually available and passive. The interesting-and troubling-thing about this supposed inversion is that the gender dynamic of the resulting happy couple is pretty much the same, no matter who’s writing the fantasy: the woman is melodramatic and led astray by her emotions the man is the moral compass who sets her straight. In a superficial sense, the fantasy is indeed a female take on an old comedic trope: the unappealing anti-hero winds up in the arms of a gorgeous, kind woman. These women are selfish, obnoxious, and slutty: and they still get the guy! Critics from Bitch magazine to the Guardian have applauded characters like Hannah, Lena Dunham’s character on Girls, and Annie of the film Bridesmaids for upending the traditional injunction that women must be likeable. The internet is excited about the rise of the bad girl. Hannah and Adam in Girls (via HBO / Facebook)